• Gina Abbas

Easy Hacks for Visiting Students at Lunch Without it Being Awkward

You want to visit students on their turf. You want to go where they are and all that right? Absolutely. Being present in the lives of students doesn't count if it only happens on your time, in your environment, at your church. If you want to be incarnational...and be present in students lives you need to be on school campuses.

I get it. You are not able to be at all of your student's schools...not every day, not every lunch break....So many schools. So many lunches. But YOU CAN pick one or two schools and choose to be as present as you are allowed to be [important...don't go until it's been cleared with the school administration] without being creepy. Some schools (a lot of them) don't allow adults on campus.

Oh, so you are an insecure introvert? Or middle aged and drive a mini van? Not exactly the hip young, confident college age youth leader anymore perhaps? How do you spend time on campus without completely dreading it? Without being you know, awkward. Here are some tips for how to hang out at school lunches and seem good at it.

1. Be accountable to someone

Seriously, strange but true- years could go by without anyone ever asking me about how often I am present on school campuses. That's why I [a full time paid youth pastor] have volunteered with both Young Life and Campus Life over the years. They require "contact work" and being present on school campuses [and hint they know how to get you on campus through established relationships with school administrators]. And they will ask you about it. "So how is your contact work going?"

2. You can do anything for 15 minutes

Go. You can always go to at least one lunch once a week. You don't have to go to two of them if a school has back to back lunches. Hanging out from 11 am til 1 pm for multiple lunch hours is not fun for anyone. Unless you are some super extrovert, who loves the smell of ummm interesting cafeteria food and lives for that kind of thing.

Tip: Arrive a little late. You can walk into a school cafeteria after lunch has started and hang out for 15 minutes. Anyone can do anything for 15 minutes [so says Flylady anyway]. After you've figured out how fun and quickly 15 minutes fly by, you can work your way up to longer visits. Once you get to know students and their stories, you will have so much more to chat about.

3. Start with kids you already know

I text a few students from my youth group ahead of time [same gender...I don't seek out the opposite gender via text to stalk at their schools, too creepy!] so they know I am coming to lunch. They tell me where they are sitting, and they introduce me to their friends. When I walk into lunch, I know exactly where I am going and where I am sitting. That helps me feel so much less awkward.

If you don't know anyone, just look for a group of kids and ask, "Can I join you?" Chances are they will say yes. Introduce yourself so they don't go home saying, "Mom some strange lady sat with me at lunch and gave me candy." That isn't weird or anything. A simple "I am a youth worker at a church nearby and came to hang out today at lunch" is usually a good enough of an explanation.

4. Two helpful items to bring with....

  • Candy. Bring candy. Now keep in mind that I don't walk around with a huge bag of it because principals don't really like that. Especially if kids leave candy wrappers all over the place. I keep a small stash in my purse and pass it around to the kids I am sitting with. You don't want to be mobbed by 200 middle schoolers begging for candy, so be smart about it. Make sure it's cool with your school administration though. I currently don't bring candy with me, because it's not allowed.

  • Games. Would You Rather's, Uno, Scrabble like these are awesome to have on hand. I tried downloading a few fun apps to my phone, but apparently I barely have any space left on my iPhone, so that didn't work well. Having games in my purse really come in handy when I need help keeping conversations going.

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